Who should pay for the first date?

PBratton · Post by **PBratton** » Fri Feb 10, 2012 10:24 pm

Ok, saw this over on Yahoo a little while ago and it made me wonder...

I'm finding myself in the 'whoever asked for the date' corner... What about you?

JustMe · Post by **JustMe** » Fri Feb 10, 2012 10:28 pm

well, my answer is double--I'm old-fashioned enough to think that the man should ask & pay!

C-dub · Post by **C-dub** » Fri Feb 10, 2012 10:31 pm

I said the man, but almost 22 years ago my future wife showed up at a company picnic the day after we met at a friends party and before she left told me she would call me later to tell me how to get to her apartment so she could take me to a Chicago Concert at the Starplex and she paid for the whole evening. She even called the guy she was supposed to go the concert with and told him she wasn't feeling well and couldn't make it.

v-rog · Post by **v-rog** » Fri Feb 10, 2012 10:37 pm

the problem/dilemma is with the word "should."

alexrex20 · Post by **alexrex20** » Fri Feb 10, 2012 10:48 pm

If the girl asks you out on a date and takes you to dinner and a movie, it would seem pretty rude (if I put myself in her shoes) if you offered to pay.

Oldgringo · Post by **Oldgringo** » Fri Feb 10, 2012 11:21 pm

The one with the money should pay.

urnoodle · Post by **urnoodle** » Fri Feb 10, 2012 11:28 pm

I would say both. I prefer dutch at least for the first date. The shouldn't be any pressure on either of us. After the first date, I've paid or he's paid. If I enjoy his company then who pays for it is the least of my concern.

apostate · Post by **apostate** » Fri Feb 10, 2012 11:38 pm

It would be exceedingly rude for someone to invite you to dinner and expect you to pay not only for yourself but for them as well.

Scott in Houston · Post by **Scott in Houston** » Sat Feb 11, 2012 12:32 am

apostate wrote:It would be exceedingly rude for someone to invite you to dinner and expect you to pay not only for yourself but for them as well.

This...

I think it's rather telling that there are 0 votes for "woman". Of course, they woman should never pay... except if they set it up. If I'm asked out by a woman (in my dream-world since I'm married 17 years now. haha), I'd never let her pay, but in general, if someone invites you to something, then expects you to pay, they have a screw loose.

speedsix · Post by **speedsix** » Sat Feb 11, 2012 12:40 am

Oldgringo wrote:The one with the money should pay.

...I promise...word for word...this is my answer...

troglodyte · Post by **troglodyte** » Sat Feb 11, 2012 10:12 am

Call me old fashion. Man should ask and pay.

texanron · Post by **texanron** » Sat Feb 11, 2012 11:11 am

My wife and I went dutch for the first few dates we went on. Once things got serious we alternated. I'm also old fashioned and was going to pay but my wife absolutely insisted we split the check. I'm not one to argue with a woman when she has her mind made up. That usually doesn't wind up working out in my favor.

SRH78 · Post by **SRH78** » Sat Feb 11, 2012 1:10 pm

texanron wrote:I'm not one to argue with a woman when she has her mind made up. That usually doesn't wind up working out in my favor.

Words of wisdom, right here.

n5wd · Post by **n5wd** » Sat Feb 11, 2012 1:22 pm

C-dub wrote:... my future wife showed up at a company picnic the day after we met ...she left told me she would call me later to tell me how to get to her apartment so she could take me to a Chicago Concert at the Starplex and she paid for the whole evening. She even called the guy she was supposed to go the concert with and told him she wasn't feeling well and couldn't make it.

There's a woman who won't take "No" for an answer!

Ameer · Post by **Ameer** » Sat Feb 11, 2012 8:30 pm

Scott in Houston wrote:I think it's rather telling that there are 0 votes for "woman".

Yes it is. Where are all the supporters of equal rights?

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