SassedandLoaded wrote:I have tried to convince him to carry, to be more aware of his surroundings, to lock doors, etc etc. His response is always "I don't need to carry it, I feel safe."
I have two basic responses to this.....
First, carrying the gun isn't what makes me feel safe. I feel safe because I avoid places where I will NOT be safe. I feel safe because I try to be courteous to those I encounter, and hope that it will be returned to me. I feel safe because I actively avoid trouble. I carry a gun for those times
when trouble finds me despite my best efforts to avoid it. But it's not like I sit around all the time worrying about my own safety. As others have said here many times, guess right, or carry 24/7.
I carry a pistol for the same reason that there's a fire extinguisher in my kitchen. I'm not worried that my kitchen will suddenly and inexplicably burst into flames; BUT, I am cognizant that grease and/or electrical fires do sometimes happen in kitchens, and so, as a
rational person who does not live in denial, I have prepared for that possibility by purchasing a fire-extinguisher and keeping it under the kitchen sink.
IF I HAD TO CARRY MY KITCHEN WITH ME EVERYWHERE I GO, the fire-extinguisher would go with me. It's just called being prepared for reality.
Second, it may be an issue of perceived masculinity for your husband. Maybe he thinks that it is just fine for the ladies to carry a discreet piece, but that "real men" don't need one. Of course, need is not determined by gender. Back in California, an old girlfriend of mine AND her boyfriend were both raped at gunpoint by the same escaped convict. The boyfriend's masculinity had nothing to do with it. And.... They were out for an evening stroll in the very upperclass and generally regarded as safe neighborhood she lived in.
Fundamentally, there is only one way for his mind to be changed, and that is to find himself in a situation where he wished he had his gun with him, and didn't have it......and to be so badly scared by the realization of potential outcomes that he changes his mind about carrying. If he survives......
My guess is that nothing you can say will change his mind. He just needs to experience for himself that the world is not as safe as he thinks it is, and that reality absolutely does not care what he feels.
“Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. And, weak men create hard times.”
― G. Michael Hopf, "Those Who Remain"
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