Have you ever been threatened?
Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 9:23 am
A relatively new friend, lets call him 1st friend, of mine somehow got mad over what another friend and myself posted on a local forum and then threatened to kill me and two other friends over an instant messenger Tuesday night. This came as a complete shock to me because he didnt seem to be that type. I tried to calm him down and find out why he was so mad, even though he was somewhat belligerent over the course of the approximately 30 min chat. Well i thought he probably calmed down a little and we ended the discussion. And during this whole time, i was relaying the chat to a 2nd friend. He could hardly believe it and wanted to assume the first friend was just joking. So i just brushed it off and went to bed.
Then again, a 3rd friend, unknowingly to the threat that took place Tuesday night, posted another comment on the local forum, and then again friend 1, instant messaged me Wednesday night and continued to be belligerent. This is where it becomes complicated. At that time, i decided to tell friend 3 about the threats i have been receiving. The target of these threats is myself, friends 2 and 3. He couldnt believe it either so i forwarded the Tuesday night chat log for him to read, but he only skimmed it and completely missed the threats. He then thought this was all a big joke and then messaged the first friend and 2nd friend to turn this joke against me. The first friend even left a voice recording in the message box of friend 3 saying he is going to cut his neck as part of this joke. Well this went on for over 30 mins and the first friend said "it was all a joke." So now im really irritated and confused. I started asking them when this joke started. Was it Tuesday or Wednesday? Friends 2 and 3 told me just now, Wednesday. I felt that the joke was in very poor taste. Pretty messed up stuff. I told all 3 of them i was irritated and very disappointed in such a terrible joke. A joke that costed my trust. Friends 2 and 3 felt sorry and tried to apologize. Then i thought about what happened and i suspected that friend 3 had not read the whole chat log and understood the severity of the situation. I asked him if he read the whole thing and he confessed he didnt. I told him to reread the entire chat log and thats when he was shocked. He said that what friend 1 said was messed up and he sincerely apologized to me for the terrible joke. We informed friend 2 of our new position on the matter and he apologized and admitted he only followed along with the joke because friend 3 told him to.
So here is my assumption. Friend 1 lost his temper Tuesday and said things that he regrets, but im a careful person and dont take real threats lightly. He then saw the opportunity Wednesday night to turn his mistake around so that the entire thing looked like it was only a joke. Now that all parties know the truth, friends 2 and 3 are cautious of friend 1 and are distancing ourselves from him.
Sorry for the long winded post but i really would like all your opinions on this. What should we do? Report our friend 1 to the authorities? Should we continue to distance ourselves and break off the friendship with friend 1? I for one can never trust him again. All of us have firearms and have even went hunting together. I just cannot put that kind of trust together for friend 1 any more.
Questions? Suggestions? If requested, i'll copy paste the chat log from Tuesday night between me and friend 1 so you can all decide.
Then again, a 3rd friend, unknowingly to the threat that took place Tuesday night, posted another comment on the local forum, and then again friend 1, instant messaged me Wednesday night and continued to be belligerent. This is where it becomes complicated. At that time, i decided to tell friend 3 about the threats i have been receiving. The target of these threats is myself, friends 2 and 3. He couldnt believe it either so i forwarded the Tuesday night chat log for him to read, but he only skimmed it and completely missed the threats. He then thought this was all a big joke and then messaged the first friend and 2nd friend to turn this joke against me. The first friend even left a voice recording in the message box of friend 3 saying he is going to cut his neck as part of this joke. Well this went on for over 30 mins and the first friend said "it was all a joke." So now im really irritated and confused. I started asking them when this joke started. Was it Tuesday or Wednesday? Friends 2 and 3 told me just now, Wednesday. I felt that the joke was in very poor taste. Pretty messed up stuff. I told all 3 of them i was irritated and very disappointed in such a terrible joke. A joke that costed my trust. Friends 2 and 3 felt sorry and tried to apologize. Then i thought about what happened and i suspected that friend 3 had not read the whole chat log and understood the severity of the situation. I asked him if he read the whole thing and he confessed he didnt. I told him to reread the entire chat log and thats when he was shocked. He said that what friend 1 said was messed up and he sincerely apologized to me for the terrible joke. We informed friend 2 of our new position on the matter and he apologized and admitted he only followed along with the joke because friend 3 told him to.
So here is my assumption. Friend 1 lost his temper Tuesday and said things that he regrets, but im a careful person and dont take real threats lightly. He then saw the opportunity Wednesday night to turn his mistake around so that the entire thing looked like it was only a joke. Now that all parties know the truth, friends 2 and 3 are cautious of friend 1 and are distancing ourselves from him.
Sorry for the long winded post but i really would like all your opinions on this. What should we do? Report our friend 1 to the authorities? Should we continue to distance ourselves and break off the friendship with friend 1? I for one can never trust him again. All of us have firearms and have even went hunting together. I just cannot put that kind of trust together for friend 1 any more.
Questions? Suggestions? If requested, i'll copy paste the chat log from Tuesday night between me and friend 1 so you can all decide.
