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I think that the better lesson is to think about how we speak to each other carefully, and that the consideration of how our words reflect on who we are and want to be stops our language well short of something that could be construed as a threat. I'm working on thinking of what I want to get from an interaction or conversation before I say anything, and trying to factor in how the audience will perceive it and me. Sometimes that leads me to saying exactly what's on my mind with no filter, sometimes it tells me that the right answer is to keep my mouth shut, and sometimes it tells me to phrase what I wanted to say differently.

I can't always do that, I don't always do it when I could or should, and I'm not always right when I go through the whole exercise. But I think it helps and I'm trying to practice getting better at it.