adjudicated and gun advice?

[kjolly]

Had a recent problem. My wife's brother was diagnosed with liver cancer. We brought him home from the hospital provided hospice care and he died a week later. I've kind of become stuck with his 29 year old son that has never launched. He floated between his mother, father and living on friends sofa. A seemingly nice kid but he has a lot of emotional problems which he does a good job of hiding but does explode. This concerned me enough to lock all of the guns in a safe.I have sent him back to live with his mother but concerned at him arriving back on my doorstep. He was in trouble with the law and had the case adjudicated.
Is he legally allowed to live where guns might be available?

[The Annoyed Man]

kjolly, First off, I am so sorry about the loss of your brother in law. Maybe it's not the same thing, but I was just thinking a few days ago when I was at my uncle's funeral in Flagstaff how grief-stricken I would be if one of my two swell younger brothers were to precede me in death.

I can't speak to the adjudication thing, except to say that your nephew's offenses do not cancel your 2nd Amendment rights......particularly in YOUR home, where he is a GUEST. But however that shakes out, if you take him in, you just enable him. If his mother takes him in, she just enables him. Tough love may mean that he has to sleep on the street until he pulls his head out of his nether regions and actually launches. But at nearly 30 years old, he's no longer a child....or at least, he shouldn't be.....but it is obvious that he never will launch as long as people keep riding to his rescue.

If it were my nephew, I'd give him $50 for food and one night in a flophouse, and turn him away with an admonition not to return until he had a job and a place to stay. Please forgive me if what I'm saying is too much. I just don't think you're doing him any favors by propping him up.

[Abraham]

I would bet a lot of his emotional issues would heal if he had the self respect a job provides.

Unless he's ineligible, he could join the military.

[kjolly]

Thanks for the advice. I'm very worried about him but feel I don't have enough ability to help him.
I really like the idea of military service. So many of our young people have become disenfranchised with life because they see no future. Many of these that feel they have no future try to take it out on society because they blame others rather than themselves. Then there is the other side of the coin and they blame and hate them self. Movies and media tends to overpower the expectations of children.We have all seen pictures of these infamous ones on tv with the blank stares and unemotional responses. They are hurting and want to hurt others because they blame society. We see this in the terrorist attacks and mass shootings. I wish I could have done something for him but you are also right about enabling. At 29 with a cooking degree he should be making his own way.

I raised an adopted daughter, currently have two step children, and in a previous marriage had two step children, so it really bothers men having to give up on a kid.

Death is never easy however I had a great experience with hospice. Their nurses visited daily and they provided enough medicine that we were able to provide BIL a dignified pain free ending. Something great happened is as he took his final breaths the doorbell rang and it was the hospice chaplain. They are becoming my favorite charity.

[MeMelYup]

I would bet a lot of his emotional issues would heal if he had the self respect a job provides.

Unless he's ineligible, he could join the military.

The military would possibly be to hard for him.