SAW THIS ON ANOTHER FORUM................

[hoss4570]

and thought I'd ask it here. A guy ASKED his wife if he could take the CHL class and get permitted and she said NO, so he DID'NT do it!!!! Now my question is, did you ask your wife?? If she said no, would you comply??? I'm sorry (no I'm not) but I'm a male chauvinist pig so the thought of asking never crossed my mind. I don't ask to buy a new gun, either. Is it just me??????

[HighVelocity]

I asked my wife what she thought about it but only to keep her in the loop, not to get her approval.

[MoJo]

I didn't ask permission to get my CHL only forgiveness. My wife was a little skeptical at first. She has accepted it now and feels better when she knows I have my gun(s) with me.

[Renegade]

As sad as it is, I know lots of people who have to ask their wife permission before they do things.

[Sangiovese]

The decision to carry a weapon and the responsibility that comes with it are major life decisions. I can't imagine making a decision like that without involving my wife.

[jimlongley]

My wife participated enthusiastically as soon as we were eligible.

When we were dating in 1993 she came to my house for the first time and saw my gun cabinet. Her reaction was "I don't know if I can live in a house with guns in it." Last year she fired a perfect score on her CHL requal.

She actually encouraged me to take the instructor's course this year, but economic factors prevented it.

[razoraggie]

As sad as it is, I know lots of people who have to ask their wife permission before they do things.

You think it is sad? I think it is smart. Why set yourself up for "unpleasantness"? The so-called notion of "asking permission" is actually a way to show your point of view in a respectful manner. In the long run, we gentlemen are going to do what we really want to do, but when we offer it up to the wife unit in the form of a conversation; it shows mutual respect for the other thus resulting in a unconfrontational environment.
Just "doing your own thing" while being married just shows lack of respect for the other. It's not a head of the household thing, it's a respect issue. I will always ask my wife her opinion in any important decision I must make because ultimately, it may affect her as well. And I can attest that we are a better couple by showing as much respect as possible towards each other.

[Xander]

This is one of the reasons that I'm still happily single.

[Mithras61]

I didn't ask, but definitely discussed it with my wife before I signed up.

I don't ask about buying guns, but that's because I am currently the acting household bookeeper, so I know if we can afford it or not. When she is acting bookeeper, I ask about purchases over $100 to make sure I'm not shortchanging something.

[The Marshal]

The decision to carry a weapon and the responsibility that comes with it are major life decisions. I can't imagine making a decision like that without involving my wife.

Well said!

~Bill

[bpet]

I didn't ask. I simply suggested that since she was at a loss for a really nice Christmas present, she might consider giving me a CHL. The new XD40 was her idea for a birthday present. I haven't complained about either and am building a list for Father's Day, Valentines Day, Veteran's Day, Ground hog Day, etc.

So far, I'm battin 1000 - Don't see any reason to quit until the safe gets full.

[dave_in_austin]

I discussed it with my wife and within two days she had signed us both up for the class and asked when we could go to the range to practice.

[ScubaSigGuy]

I am not married but I am engaged to be. Five or six years ago I had the
opportunity to take the class but it was my last weekend off before I started a new job and we had just returned from a long trip overseas. S
he had to listen to me complain that I should have taken that class up
until last December when I finally found a way to take it during the week.
I think that she is glad that I took just so I would shut up about it . I
started out thinking that I would just carry in my vehicle until I found this
site. I did talk to her about carrying on my person when I changed my
mind. She didn't like it at first and she still sometimes calls me a "Gun
nut" but before we leave the house to go somewhere, she tells me that I
am OK when I am checking to make sure that I am not printing.

I am not sure that she believes that there is a need for me to carry but she knows that I feel strongly about it and that it makes me happy so she is good with it. She hated guns when we first met but we talked and I made it clear that they would always be in the house.

Two words... BABY STEPS - Thanks Bob ( I wonder how many people will get that)

What made me change my mind about carrying on my person? It's real simple I read Longtooth's signature line and it was very thought provoking.

[BadCo45ACP]

As sad as it is, I know lots of people who have to ask their wife permission before they do things.

No husband or wife should have to ask their spouse for permission to do anything, however, NO decision that could have a major impact on both their lives sholud be made with out the others input.

[Wildscar]

My wife had been skeptical about having guns in the house until we had an incident that was abit to uncomfortable for me. We talked and I told her I was going to buy a gun and get my CHL. It was something I had always wanted to do. To my shock she was ok with it.

I bought my 92FS and showed it to her a bit and she was interested but not so much into it just yet. It stayed locked up for the most part cause we have a little one running around here and I was going to leave it lying around. Only came out when I was going to the range and what not.

Then my CHL came in. Her mode changed and I could tell so I asked her about it. She told me that she felt unconformable with a loaded gun on my hip. I didn't blow up or over react. This came up one night when my son was already in bed fast asleep. I pulled the Pistol out and unloaded it. I gave her a much more in depth of what it could and couldn't do. She sat there and took it all in. I let he hold it and dry fire it a few times so that she could feel the action of the trigger and let her rack the slide and pretty much all the bells and whistles. Told her about the different built in safety features and how they worked. Told her the only way that it was going to go off was if the trigger was pulled. Showed he that the trigger is completely covered when it's int he holster. I even showed her how to load bullets into the mag and then insert the mag and remove it. she felt relly comfortable after all that.

What happen next really practically floored me. It was like the scene in Aliens where Hicks is showing Ripley how to operate the M41A Pulse rifle. She asked "What does this button do", I told her "Thats the tear down lever, you don't need to mess with that right now." She then gave the famous line "You started this, show me everything" With that little grin to go along with it. So I proceed to show her how to tear it down and clean it. (It needed it anyway) After all that she is defiantly more comfortable while I have it on. Now I just have to get her to the range so she can really experience it all.