My wife and I discuss everything we both do on a daily basis and we have been doing that for OVER THIRTYONE YEASRS. (I used the caps on purpose to draw your attention) It is a good system for us!
In regards to CHL, we were packing long before they had a CHL.(not everywhere, everyday but when we felt the need we did)
I can't remember ever thinking it was not MY responsibility and my right to take care of myself. I grew up before they ever had "Dial 911".
Paul told the Corinthians;"All things are lawful for me, but not all things are profitable"(1Cor.:12). I have learned that! Yes, I can do anything I want to, but the consequences of doing so may be too costly to make it worthwhile. Free marriage counseling today only!
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We took our initial and renewal classes at the same time.
We tend to discuss things since we value each other opinions, but that's not the same thing as asking permission. She's an adult capable of making her own decisions, and the same is true for me. I talk to here because I want her input, not because I have to…
If you don’t feel you have to ask permission, and she’s granted the same right, then I don’t see how that can be chauvinistic. But if you don’t have to ask because your male, and she does since “women just aren’t as capable of making decisions as males�, then I think that would qualify as chauvinistic.
Mrs. Anygun was almost as driven to get her CHL as I was.
She is not, however, as intense in her desire to aquire a herd of firearms. Her S&W 642 is just fine as far as she is concerned.
On the other hand, I consider myself the Imelda Marcos of firearms and want to own many and accessorize as well and am limited only by my gun fund and my ability to keep it in the black.
I do not consult her in my firearms purchases, as she does not consult with me in her purchases. She has occaisionally shown annoyance with me, but it does not last long. Plying her with a nice Italian dinner, a nice bottle of chianti, and a slab of tiramisu usually smooths things out.
Occaisionally there pops up issues that reveal a justifiable nature of my firearms aquisitions, specifically the hurricane Rita evacuation. She was assured that with our more than adequate firepower we would increase our chance of survival among the raging hordes. Armed with my black rifles, tactical shootguns, and adequate quantities of appropriate ammo in pre-loaded magazines, she knew it was the right approach.
Mrs. Anygun has even occaisionally stated a renewed understanding of her RKBA as granted by her Creator, and has expressed the disdain often of having to obtain a license to exercise her right.
We have been married for over 32 years, and this works for us.
Anygun
"When democracy turns to tyranny, the armed citizen still gets to vote." Mike Vanderboegh
"The Smallest Minority on earth is the individual. Those who deny individual rights cannot claim to be defenders of minorities." – Ayn Rand
I had a 60s-era jarhead in class several years ago. He waited until a Saturday that his wife was out of the country to take class. "Forgiveness easier to get than permission."
Venus Pax wrote:Wildscar, I think you acted very wisely. You understood that the fear of guns is mostly from ignorance; ignorance does have a cure if someone is willing to receive it.
Thank you for you kind words. I was just stoked that she was willing to lern about it after being adamat about not having them around. I guess Our close call was a real eye opener.
pshaw! i don't ask my wife to do anything. I dont have to. I'm a MAN.
And I dont mind sleeping on the couch for a solid month after I do something without telling her.
:)
seriously, we talked about it for a good while. It helped that i had a very responsible friend who also has a CHL and he basically talked me into it in front of her. We've always had a gun around the house and the few times we haven't she's always remarked that she feels much safer when there's one in the house.
She wasn't wild about getting a CHL and carrying on my person. Thought it was overkill and unsafe. Since then I have taken her shooting and we've found that she loves it as much as I do. She's actually a better shot than I am. We have plans to get her CHL as soon as we can afford to get her a 9mm (her weapon of choice). It's good for her self-confidence too. She actually likes it so much she made a new rules. I'm not allowed to go to the range WITHOUT her. :) We plan on eventually getting involved in IDPA type stuff as something to go out and do together when she gets a 9mm and can get in some more practice.
We always consult eachother for purchases over $100. She was not wild about buying the new Taurus pistol (all we had at the time was a shotgun) so I sold some of my toys to pay for it. She still wasn't exactly happy citing that that $ could have gone to other stuff, but she also understood that i didn't use any out-of-pocket funds for it.
Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship, romantic or otherwise.
I told my wife it was my duty to be able to protect our family. While she is wary of guns around our kids she is ok with me carrying as long as she does not have to hear or know about it.
She claimed my Springfield 1911A1 45 for herself . I'm trying to get her to the outdoor range so she can be comfortable with it and gain an appreciation for shooting it. Also when the kids are old enough to go she will be willing to go too.
anygunanywhere wrote:
On the other hand, I consider myself the Imelda Marcos of firearms and want to own many and accessorize as well and am limited only by my gun fund and my ability to keep it in the black.
I think I just set the world record for speed and distance for stuff coming out of my nose!!! I may need a new monitor...
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. I'm trying to get her to the outdoor range so she can be comfortable with it and gain an appreciation for shooting it. Also when the kids are old enough to go she will be willing to go too.
