sjfcontrol wrote:gwashorn wrote:If someone attacks me and I have to defend myself and family and the result is they die, then the remorse for their loved ones is real BUT, he made the decision to put his family in that situation..... NOT ME! I will not carry the guilt for his decision. He made his bed and he can lie in it... I am cold, yes, life, S*** happens, live with it and go on.
Gary
That sounds appropriate. I was not talking about guilt -- especially not for a shooting due to threat of lethal force. I was only talking about an emotional reaction to having taken a life.
Taking a life is an extremely intense emotional experience, even when it is justified and no other reasonable option is available. During the event, a defender will see, hear, smell, and taste things far different than anything else in their experience unless they've previously seen combat or extensive service in a very active emergency response organization.
If there was no other reasonable way to protect innocent life, you're right that there's no logical cause for guilt, but that doesn't mean you won't feel that emotion and many others anyway. Emotions don't run on logic. If history is any indicator, you also probably wouldn't sleep like you did before for some time.
The emotions may go back to the fact that most species are wired not to kill members of their own kind. Col. Dave Grossman's book
On Killing is a well researched and thoughtful exploration of this subject that has much to say to anyone who may at some time be involved in deadly combat. The experiences of those who have gone before most certainly contain valuable lessons for the future.